For inexplicable reasons, the song "I'm a Woman" has being skipping 'round my head, poking me and asking stupid questions.
It's an awful song. Turning tables is still prejudice, for one thing. But mostly "never let you forget you're a man" is a line that makes no damn sense at all.
"Honey, I've forgotten, am I male or female?"
"Well, dear, I've forgotten as well. Guess we'd better check."
No, this does not happen. Who thinks about their gender like this? Unless in the middle of a specifically gendering activity - sex, childbirth, prostate exam, gender reassignment surgery, buying a bra/jockstrap, who has to make an effort to consider their male/femaleness? Or need to? ALL the time? DO men need to be constantly reminded of their testicular existence? Ok, yes, some men do seem to, I grant you. As some obnoxious women also appear to constantly need reassurance that they are pretty and have boobs. But most of us just get on with it, and our interests do not particularly correlate with our gender.
And as I pile on the years, I think less and less about it. As an irrelevancy. Or an annoyance. Menopause, please?
Dec 8:15 pm MST 20˚F (-7C) 84% humidity 12˚F wind chill
Very icy and blustery this evening, going very cold overnight. Looking at even colder nights to follow. Wearing the parka in the morning, mostly to keep out the wind. Down to 3˚F on Tuesday night, Wednesday morning. -16C.
I have bilateral cats. For a long while, they were both sitting between us, me with an arm over Moby, and a hand on Eleanor, to make sure she didn't bop anyone. Now, one on either side, leaning in. I think they like my robe.
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and as i get older, i get more and more aware of our differences and inequalities. funny, that. we each walk a very different path in life, don't we, us humans?
pc,
Oh, I only mean in myself. Assumption not worth thinking about.
As for the sexism, I get unspeakably depressed about the backlash, when I was young I thought it would be gone by now. If I want to get up every morning, I can't let myself dwell on that.
"who has to make an effort to consider their male/femaleness? Or need to? ALL the time?"
On a daily basis? Or more often? Trans people. (And freaks like me too, of course.) It is privilege to be able to go out in the world and not have to consider your gender on a daily basis. At least in the US, the world we live in is highly gendered. Avoiding it is impossible. Too much of daily life is infused with gender specifications. For example, almost everything we buy is gendered to some extent. It is only invisible if you don't have to deal with gender issues. That's the basis of cis-gender privilege.
It would be nice if, post-SRS, daily life was as gender-free as it is for cis-gender people, but it isn't.
Oops, I'm sorry if that came off ranty or sounded like I was upset. I'm totally not. I don't know how to say it, I think. I'm annoyed at the world, not you.
SRS= sex reassignment surgery
Pixie,
I only meant in reference to the song, implying on an hourly basis, perhaps minute to minute.
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