I've been examining my character, my weaknesses and failings.
Once in school, I was to take cupcakes to class. Helping frost them, I was trying to hold back so that I would have some frosting left for myself. My mother chided me for being stingy. She was right, of course. Still, I had no desire to be generous to children I didn't like. They could have all the cupcakes they wanted, but not all my frosting.
Most of the neighborhood children that I played with always insisted on going first, and getting the biggest piece, and I was so glad of company, I never objected. While wishing for friends who wanted me to go first, some times anyway.
I can be generous with my time, effort, things, but less so with my food, and I want anyone imposing on my generosity to come to me. Driving is a huge chore that I barely want to do for myself. Not big on being thanked, actually prefer gifts to be quickly acknowledged then quietly ignored. Finding out later it was useful is good, but hardly necessary.
I am deep down shy, and agoraphobic. I don't like large groups of people, especially if they all notice me. Putting on an act, including a brave face, takes every mental trick and a lot of effort, which I can do, but for a limited time, and not too often. Just a few people is fine, or a whole faceless crowd in which to be lost. I face these anxieties daily, and it does get easier with practice and over so many years. Does not change the sub-strata, only covers it up. No letting it rule me, but best not to stress it to breaking point.
I'm ok with not being liked. Doesn't make me a bad person, just not that likable in the middle. Pleasant in casual meetings, capable of a deep, deep love with one person, but friends in between tend to drift away after a while. Perhaps Reader Friends (that's all of you) hear the Why and the aftermath, and don't see me flubbing through a social situation, we form a different class of associations and expectations.
However uneven it may look, everyone gets something out of an exchange. Pay, or control, or a creative outlet, satisfaction or flattery, but something, always something. Best to know what you are trading with, and for what.
Once I see, I can't unsee. Not about anger or forgiveness, but when I see malice, habitual neglect, harm, in someone, I don't want them close to me. No second chances then, no going back. Probably why I have no other friends.
On the other hand, D loves me, Moby trusts me. I hold fast to them.
Going through the closets, putting away the winter clothes, bringing out the light stuff, getting rid of what we have not worn. D is off at a game meet-up, with my blessings. Needing an afternoon to myself.