We've always been most comfortable in each other's company, D and I. When he took work trips to SF, I would sometimes go with him. We have traveled without each other, to a couple of weddings, a family trip by me very early on. He's off to the Rose City Comic Con this weekend, and we are emailing/chatting madly.
I didn't hurry home from work. Not exactly enjoying, but savoring, having the house to myself. Planning excursions tomorrow, a massage and a local street festival. I like being alone, but D has always been the guardian of my solitude. Never intrusive, a companion in quiet rather. Still, perhaps since the House, we have neither of us quite had sufficiency of a particular sort of silence.
I sent him photos (from my new toy) approximately hourly, through the day. He's dining with our friend who lives out there now.
We really are ridiculously companionable with each other, we suit so well. Even then, it's healthy once in a while to spend a few days apart, if only to appreciate.
Yesterday, he had an appointment near where I work. When I got to the car to come home, there was a note. "(Zhoen), I love you, D" which got me quite tearful. He also left his jacket in the car, so he wouldn't have to carry it home. Which made it all the better for me, since I like my romantic gestures without sentimentality, add a practical note and I find it so much more satisfying. No sugar floss wanted.
Got another note this week. Appreciation from a patient, I had time to chat and answer her questions, same name as one of her several sisters. Rarely get such praise, since the anesthetic drugs mean most folks never remember meeting me.
Nothing special that I did, but apparently it hit the spot. Waiting for a case, I was able to answer questions and spend some time.
Amazing how much an unexpected thank-you makes a huge difference.
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"Put me at ease in my anxiousness"
High praise indeed!
It's a sweet feeling to miss someone, knowing they'll soon be home, eh?
beautiful. but i completely understand the sentimentality thing. flowers sent to the office set my teeth on edge "look, world! look how much we love each other!" yuck! the real thing is quiet and strong and doesn't feel the need to be saccharine or exhibitionistic.
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Frex,
Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just the right action in the right moment.
pc,
Shhh... don't tell anyone else that he left me a note on my steering wheel, then. ok?
Having had a bad experience coming out of anasthesia, I wouldn't dismiss it so lightly!
Each to her own, of course, but just in case the Powers in Charge of the Declarations of Love Department Things is listening, I would just like to make it clear that my Italian genes would be just fine with someone declaring their love for me in a very public, operatic way.
Sky writing, flash mobs, roses delivered on horseback---all such would be acceptable. :)
Quiet devotion no less acceptable too.
--Frex, Fresca
Frex,
Oh, D was never shy, just not showy.
To each their own, as long as both agree. The latter is the essential bit.
I'm always very positive with my emerging patients. "You did great, what a trooper! Everything is great, you did very well! All done, all done."
No idea if it helps, but I do it anyway.
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