Gratitude
All about doing the job in front of me today. Got off a little early, and got groceries. Moby very appreciative of fresh batch of wheatgrass. Mrrked and sat up, ate, and sat beside the green for a good hour, looking grateful. I suppose it's odd, but I have always gotten the sense that, in his cat way, Moby is grateful for the extra treats. Like the gifts of wheatgrass, the kittymassage, the better wet food. He seems to make a point of seeing the good stuff put out for him, then coming back to hang around with us, as if to say, "thanks, and I like you, so you're more important than food."
Maybe we're reading more into it, of course. We don't know what's going through his little catbrain. But seeing this behaviour so often over the years, it certainly reads as gratitude. What is more, it feels like it. Just as when I have come home upset, and Moby lets me hold him a long time, and noses my face and eyes with what feels just like concern. And so why not call it concern? It's certainly kind, and calming.
And so we do hope, and think, that he knows he is loved. He knows he can trust us. He once hated a head anywhere near him, and would bolt. Now, I can rest my face in his belly, and he purrs. This took time.
Trust is always best when it is well earned, on both sides.
Maybe we're reading more into it, of course. We don't know what's going through his little catbrain. But seeing this behaviour so often over the years, it certainly reads as gratitude. What is more, it feels like it. Just as when I have come home upset, and Moby lets me hold him a long time, and noses my face and eyes with what feels just like concern. And so why not call it concern? It's certainly kind, and calming.
And so we do hope, and think, that he knows he is loved. He knows he can trust us. He once hated a head anywhere near him, and would bolt. Now, I can rest my face in his belly, and he purrs. This took time.
Trust is always best when it is well earned, on both sides.
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9 comments:
"Trust is always best when it is well earned, on both sides."
So true, whether with people or animals. There is a tiger-tabby, feral, I think, maybe dumped here this spring, that I've been sharing food with for several weeks now. Last evening (Monday), I looked out the back door after supper to find him snugged up to the back steps, the closest he had been to the house ever. He didn't scram right away when I opened the door, and waited inside the gate while I put food in his pan.
What floored me was that when I turned to go back inside, to give him space, instead of going to his food right away, he walked up to the steps, tail up, a look of curiosity (seemed that to me) in his eyes. So, I propped open the screen door, left the back door open and sat at the computer desk, waiting to see if he would come in.
He got as far as the door sill, heard a noise behind him outside and decided he had had enough adventure and turned around, back to the food dish.
So, we do this little dance, he and I, a two-step of trust and friendship, at his pace. Might not ever be anymore than this, but that is more than I imagined it would become, so it's good...it's all good.
And gratitude, too! I certainly think that animals can express it. My old dog always comes and says 'thank you' after a meal. A younger dog that I walk for a friend repeatedly bounces back to me, nudges my hand and clearly says 'this is fun - thanks!'
I'm not anthropomorphising - just understanding the communication, as you and The Crow are.
Once upon a time I might have dismissed these kind of animal observations. But I have lived with a cat for 15 years and have come to learn that these things are true. I think they do (in their own cat/animal way) feel and express love, gratitude, concern and it is only by sharing one's life with an animal that it is possible to learn how to read the signs. And they, I feel, read ours.
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oh yes...lovely post.
Indeed.
exactly what they're thinking, who knows? but I trust perceptions of what they're feeling: we're not all that much different from other mammals emotionally, so far as I can tell. We all clue in to each other pretty well.
Dale,
It's just what to call that emotion, and not projecting my thoughts onto the critter I want to be careful about.
Crow,
Exactly. Glad you have a we furry friend.
RR,
Oh, yes.
RtheS,
Time, agreed. We've lived with Moby six years now, and we've come to an understanding.
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